• Individual Therapy

    In the end, when we look at our life, the questions will be simple: Did I live fully? Did I love well?

    - Jack Kornfield

    Individual Therapy

    I have 20 years of experience as a psychotherapist helping people who want to find a way through their current pain so they can live more satisfying and enriching lives. I particularly work with people who are

    • coping with the impact of growing up with an alcoholic, mentally ill, or narcissistic family member
    • high achievers who feel lonely, overwhelmed and anxious despite outward success
    • struggling to find or sustain intimate relationships, or are unsure about their current relationship.
    • experiencing stress, burnout and or are easily overwhelmed due to high sensitivity
    • having a tough time having compassion for themselves, possibly due to childhood emotional neglect
    • people who are going through a coming out process

    How I Work


    My style of working is depth-oriented and relational, which means that I want to help you address the underlying cause of your current struggles. We will pay attention to how old and unconscious beliefs show up in your current life and show up right in the moment in therapy, giving us a chance to do it differently so you can have a different outcome. I believe that “when you can feel it, you can heal it”.


    My work with clients is also influenced by mindfulness-based approaches and the latest neuroscience. I meet with people at least once weekly for 50-minute sessions.


    My practice reflects a wide range of identities and social locations. As a therapist who holds white and cis privilege, I am committed to ongoing exploration, awareness, and accountability around how that privilege may show up in therapy.



    To begin a conversation about whether we might be a good fit to work together, call (510) 594-4099 or email deb@deblyman.com.

  • Couples Therapy

    Love doesn’t just sit there, like a stone, it has to be made, like bread; remade all the time, made new.

     —Ursula K. Le Guin

    Couples Therapy and Relationship Counseling

    I work with queer and heterosexual couples who want to feel more connected so they can face challenges as a team. They want to do conflict well, enjoy their sex life more, and understand each other better, but are facing challenges such as

    • facing a major decision such as being more committed, getting married, having children, opening the relationship, or separating
    • trying to stay connected while caring for children or aging parents
    • having repetitive arguments with no resolution
    • managing open and CNM relationships
    • healing from infidelity

    How I Work

    I use Sue Johnson’s Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) in addition to contemporary psychoanalytic and relational approaches, and practical tools when needed.


    To begin a conversation about whether we might be a good fit to work together, call (510) 594-4099 or email deb@deblyman.com.

  • Clinical Consultation

    Clinical Supervision and Consultation

    I have been supervising pre-licensed therapists and consulting to licensed therapists for over 10 years. Consultation involves in-depth exploration of case material to address countertransference and transference dilemmas, and to deepen your understanding of what may be happening in the dyad. We will think together about the case material and pay close attention to the present moment experience in the room- where parallel processes may arise.


    I also consult with therapists who are newer to private practice around money matters, fee and frame issues, and building a private practice that is truly nourishing for both therapist and client. Information about classes and workshops can be found on my consultation site, www.privatepracticeconsultation.com


    To schedule a clinical consultation, call (510) 594-4099 or email. For more information on practice building consultation and coaching , click here.

  • Contact

    The right fit is important. I offer a free 15-20 minute phone consultation where we can chat and get a sense of whether I might be the right fit for you.